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How to let love into our lives, and how to express that love to the world at large—the latest from a best-selling author. We were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our genetic code. We may find it a challenge to love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others. David Richo provides the tools here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then showing how we can learn to open to love others. The first challenge is that we have a hard time letting love in: recognizing it, accepting it from others.

When I observe how people engage in romantic relationships, it seems that they do this in one of two ways: either from the perspective of a child or from that of an adult. People who pursue love from an adult perspective are looking for companionship, romance, a life partner. They're realistic about what the other person has to offer but they won't settle for less than what will make them truly happy. They understand that while love is enriching and meaningful, it can't make up for what's missing in their lives or be the center of their existence.

Loving and being Loved is a basic necessity in life. There are many ways to and be loved but I believe if you strip all these ways bare be it romantic, friends, family etc , you will find that it comes down to two main kinds of love: 'Adult' love and 'Childish' love. We believe children love unconditionally. They do so, to an extent, but with totally no boundaries.